Friendship That Feels One-Sided

I have a friendship that's started to feel draining and one-sided, and I don't know what to do.

The situation:
- How long we've been friends: [TIME]
- What feels unbalanced: [e.g. I always initiate / they only talk to me when they need something / they never ask how I am]
- A specific example: [DESCRIBE ONE RECENT SITUATION]
- What I want to do: [talk to them / pull back / end it]

Help me:
1. **Assess the friendship** — is this a pattern or a temporary phase?
2. **The conversation to have** if I want to address it — what to say and how
3. **How to pull back gracefully** if I decide to create distance
4. **Ending the friendship** — if that's the right call, how to do it
5. **Dealing with the guilt** of choosing myself
6. **What a reciprocal friendship actually looks like** — the standard I deserve

I have a friendship that's started to feel draining and one-sided, and I don't know what to do.

The situation:
- How long we've been friends: [TIME]
- What feels unbalanced: [e.g. I always initiate / they only talk to me when they need something / they never ask how I am]
- A specific example: [DESCRIBE ONE RECENT SITUATION]
- What I want to do: [talk to them / pull back / end it]

Help me:
1. **Assess the friendship** — is this a pattern or a temporary phase?
2. **The conversation to have** if I want to address it — what to say and how
3. **How to pull back gracefully** if I decide to create distance
4. **Ending the friendship** — if that's the right call, how to do it
5. **Dealing with the guilt** of choosing myself
6. **What a reciprocal friendship actually looks like** — the standard I deserve