They Keep Future Faking — What to Do

Someone keeps making plans and promises about our future but never follows through on any of them.

What they say: [e.g. 'we'll go on holiday', 'I want you to meet my friends', 'let's move in together' — what the promises are]
What actually happens: [nothing / they change the subject / they get defensive when I bring it up]
How long this has been happening: [TIME]
What I've tried: [raised it / waited to see if they'd act / nothing]

Give me a direct guide:
1. **What future faking actually is** — and how it differs from someone who's just slow to commit
2. **Whether this is conscious manipulation or avoidance** — the psychological difference and why it matters
3. **The conversation to have** — how to call it out without it turning into an argument
4. **What their response will tell you** — the two outcomes and what each means
5. **If nothing changes after you've raised it** — your realistic options
6. **How to stop investing emotionally in promises** — a practical mindset shift

Someone keeps making plans and promises about our future but never follows through on any of them.

What they say: [e.g. 'we'll go on holiday', 'I want you to meet my friends', 'let's move in together' — what the promises are]
What actually happens: [nothing / they change the subject / they get defensive when I bring it up]
How long this has been happening: [TIME]
What I've tried: [raised it / waited to see if they'd act / nothing]

Give me a direct guide:
1. **What future faking actually is** — and how it differs from someone who's just slow to commit
2. **Whether this is conscious manipulation or avoidance** — the psychological difference and why it matters
3. **The conversation to have** — how to call it out without it turning into an argument
4. **What their response will tell you** — the two outcomes and what each means
5. **If nothing changes after you've raised it** — your realistic options
6. **How to stop investing emotionally in promises** — a practical mindset shift