Navigate Grandparent Involvement

The level of grandparent involvement in our family is causing tension and I need to find a way to manage it.

The issue: [e.g. they undermine our parenting / too much involvement / too little / different values / they spoil the children / they're critical of how we parent]
Whose parents: [mine / my partner's / both]
How this has affected things: [DESCRIBE — arguments with partner / resentment / children caught in the middle]
What I want: [clear limits / more involvement / just to stop the conflict]

Help me navigate this:
1. **What's actually worth addressing vs what's worth letting go** — choosing the right battles
2. **The conversation to have with the grandparents** — how to set a limit without it becoming a family fallout
3. **Aligning with my partner first** — you need a united front before any external conversation
4. **When grandparents actively undermine your parenting** — how to address it directly
5. **Scripts for common scenarios** — the spoiling / the criticism / the uninvited advice
6. **What good grandparent relationships look like** — the version to work towards

The level of grandparent involvement in our family is causing tension and I need to find a way to manage it.

The issue: [e.g. they undermine our parenting / too much involvement / too little / different values / they spoil the children / they're critical of how we parent]
Whose parents: [mine / my partner's / both]
How this has affected things: [DESCRIBE — arguments with partner / resentment / children caught in the middle]
What I want: [clear limits / more involvement / just to stop the conflict]

Help me navigate this:
1. **What's actually worth addressing vs what's worth letting go** — choosing the right battles
2. **The conversation to have with the grandparents** — how to set a limit without it becoming a family fallout
3. **Aligning with my partner first** — you need a united front before any external conversation
4. **When grandparents actively undermine your parenting** — how to address it directly
5. **Scripts for common scenarios** — the spoiling / the criticism / the uninvited advice
6. **What good grandparent relationships look like** — the version to work towards