How to Stop People Pleasing

I'm a people pleaser and it's affecting my relationships and my own happiness.

How it shows up for me: [e.g. I can't say no / I apologise constantly / I mould myself to what others want / I feel responsible for everyone's emotions]
The relationship it's hurting most: [WHICH ONE]
What I'm afraid will happen if I stop: [FEAR]

Create a people-pleasing recovery plan:
1. **Where this came from** — the roots of the pattern
2. **How it's showing up** — the specific behaviours to change first
3. **Saying no** — scripts for the situations I find hardest
4. **Tolerating the discomfort** of someone being disappointed in me
5. **The difference between kindness and people-pleasing** — how to be generous without losing myself
6. **A 2-week challenge** to practice holding my own

I'm a people pleaser and it's affecting my relationships and my own happiness.

How it shows up for me: [e.g. I can't say no / I apologise constantly / I mould myself to what others want / I feel responsible for everyone's emotions]
The relationship it's hurting most: [WHICH ONE]
What I'm afraid will happen if I stop: [FEAR]

Create a people-pleasing recovery plan:
1. **Where this came from** — the roots of the pattern
2. **How it's showing up** — the specific behaviours to change first
3. **Saying no** — scripts for the situations I find hardest
4. **Tolerating the discomfort** of someone being disappointed in me
5. **The difference between kindness and people-pleasing** — how to be generous without losing myself
6. **A 2-week challenge** to practice holding my own