I'm a chronic people pleaser and it's exhausting. Help me change this pattern.
How it shows up: [ALWAYS SAY YES / CAN'T HANDLE CONFLICT / SUPPRESS MY NEEDS / APOLOGISE FOR EVERYTHING / OTHER]
Who I please most: [BOSS / PARTNER / PARENTS / FRIENDS / EVERYONE]
What it costs me: [ENERGY / RESENTMENT / LOST IDENTITY / BURNOUT / ALL]
Provide:
1. **Root Cause Exploration**: Why I became a people pleaser (common origins)
2. **Cost Accounting**: Help me see what people-pleasing is actually costing me
3. **Identity Excavation**: Who am I when I'm not managing everyone else's feelings?
4. **Boundary Scripts**: Exact phrases for common people-pleasing situations
5. **Discomfort Tolerance**: How to sit with the anxiety of displeasing someone
6. **The Disapproval Survival Guide**: Proof that I can survive someone being unhappy with me
7. **Anger Recovery**: Reconnecting with healthy anger (people pleasers often suppress it)
8. **Relationship Audit**: Which relationships are reciprocal vs one-directional
9. **Daily Practice**: One small act of self-prioritisation each day
10. **Setback Plan**: What to do when I fall back into old patterns (progress isn't linear)
I'm a chronic people pleaser and it's exhausting. Help me change this pattern.
How it shows up: [ALWAYS SAY YES / CAN'T HANDLE CONFLICT / SUPPRESS MY NEEDS / APOLOGISE FOR EVERYTHING / OTHER]
Who I please most: [BOSS / PARTNER / PARENTS / FRIENDS / EVERYONE]
What it costs me: [ENERGY / RESENTMENT / LOST IDENTITY / BURNOUT / ALL]
Provide:
1. **Root Cause Exploration**: Why I became a people pleaser (common origins)
2. **Cost Accounting**: Help me see what people-pleasing is actually costing me
3. **Identity Excavation**: Who am I when I'm not managing everyone else's feelings?
4. **Boundary Scripts**: Exact phrases for common people-pleasing situations
5. **Discomfort Tolerance**: How to sit with the anxiety of displeasing someone
6. **The Disapproval Survival Guide**: Proof that I can survive someone being unhappy with me
7. **Anger Recovery**: Reconnecting with healthy anger (people pleasers often suppress it)
8. **Relationship Audit**: Which relationships are reciprocal vs one-directional
9. **Daily Practice**: One small act of self-prioritisation each day
10. **Setback Plan**: What to do when I fall back into old patterns (progress isn't linear)
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