Recover From Cheating (Stay or Go?)

There's been infidelity in my relationship and I don't know whether to stay or leave.

What happened: [brief — who cheated, physical or emotional]
How long ago: [TIME]
What's happened since: [apology / therapy / nothing / more lies]
My gut right now: [stay / go / completely split]
The main thing holding me: [REASON]

I need honest guidance, not comfort:
1. **Factors that make recovery possible** vs factors that suggest it's unlikely to work
2. **Questions you must be able to honestly answer** before deciding to stay
3. **What genuine repair looks like** — the minimum you should expect from them
4. **If you're staying** — the steps and the timeline for rebuilding trust
5. **If you're leaving** — how to do it when there's history and still feelings
6. **The thing most people get wrong** when trying to recover from this
7. **When to involve a couples therapist** — and how to raise it

There's been infidelity in my relationship and I don't know whether to stay or leave.

What happened: [brief — who cheated, physical or emotional]
How long ago: [TIME]
What's happened since: [apology / therapy / nothing / more lies]
My gut right now: [stay / go / completely split]
The main thing holding me: [REASON]

I need honest guidance, not comfort:
1. **Factors that make recovery possible** vs factors that suggest it's unlikely to work
2. **Questions you must be able to honestly answer** before deciding to stay
3. **What genuine repair looks like** — the minimum you should expect from them
4. **If you're staying** — the steps and the timeline for rebuilding trust
5. **If you're leaving** — how to do it when there's history and still feelings
6. **The thing most people get wrong** when trying to recover from this
7. **When to involve a couples therapist** — and how to raise it