When to Make It Official

I'm dating someone and I don't know if or when to have the 'what are we' conversation.

How long we've been seeing each other: [TIME]
What we do together: [DESCRIBE frequency, activities]
What they've said or hinted: [OR 'nothing, that's the problem']
What I want: [relationship / to know where I stand / not to rush it]

Help me work this out:
1. **Read the situation** — based on what I've described, where does this seem to be heading?
2. **Signs they want more** vs signs they're keeping it casual
3. **When the right time is** to have this conversation — timing matters
4. **Exactly how to bring it up** without giving an ultimatum or sounding desperate
5. **The three ways they might respond** and what to say back to each
6. **What to do if they're not on the same page** — your options clearly laid out

I'm dating someone and I don't know if or when to have the 'what are we' conversation.

How long we've been seeing each other: [TIME]
What we do together: [DESCRIBE frequency, activities]
What they've said or hinted: [OR 'nothing, that's the problem']
What I want: [relationship / to know where I stand / not to rush it]

Help me work this out:
1. **Read the situation** — based on what I've described, where does this seem to be heading?
2. **Signs they want more** vs signs they're keeping it casual
3. **When the right time is** to have this conversation — timing matters
4. **Exactly how to bring it up** without giving an ultimatum or sounding desperate
5. **The three ways they might respond** and what to say back to each
6. **What to do if they're not on the same page** — your options clearly laid out